Quit Being So Hard On Yourself… Seriously!

What do the voices in your head tell you? And don’t even act like you don’t have voices. We all do! They show up at the most critical of moments- when are making a big decision or stepping out of our comfort zone to live out our purpose.

That’s when these little annoying voices show up, and I know exactly what they tell me!

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You’re not good enough.

You’ll never succeed.

You’ll never meet your potential.

You’re just going to fail… Again!

Do any of those sound familiar? Man, I hear those ALL of the time, especially that last one. “You’re just going to fail, again!”

For years, I gave that voice so much power. And that’s the key really. I(me!)… gave that voice power. There is actually no, none, z-e-r-o power in that voice of its own. It only has as much influence as I allow it to have. And for a long time, I gave it WAY too much influence!

One way I gave this voice power was by being so hard on myself every time I would not meet my plans 100%. Take the Phosphorus Project, for example. This is my 47th post. Sounds kind of good. But that has taken me since 2011. That is 47 posts in about 42 months! Talk about slow and steady! Wow! But this is how it happens…. I get all excited and pumped up about my dream (and purpose!) called Phosphorus. So, I write and work hard for weeks. But then life happens.

Life ALWAYS happens. I bet you can relate!

Life happens, and I miss a day or two of writing. Then a week. Then a month. And that voice begins to creep in. “You’re just going to fail… Again! Why keep writing? You have already lost your traffic flow! There is no point. This is a failure and will never amount to anything!” Since 2011, this cycle has been happening. I work hard, get a little off track and listen to that vicious voice, and then stop all work on my dreams… because I just know it’s going to fail. (P.S. No one knows what is going to fail!)

But not this time!

A few months ago, this cycle started over. I worked harder in the past several months on Phosphorus Project than I had in two years. I was pumped, and started to write. But guess what! Life happened. After a few good months of writing, I stalled, and the voices came back. But this time, I told it to SHUT UP!  This is what I have learned: Sometimes, life just gets crazy. Stop being so hard on yourself and get back on track when you can!

My life the past couple of months: My wife is pregnant (awesome!), I finished my 8-week, 80 page Master of Arts Capstone research paper, and completed my final elective class to be able to graduate in August. Of course, that is not all. But that is a quick snapshot of life in the McCarrick house the last few months. So, guess what? Writing every day on my blog wasn’t even realistic. It would have just about killed me. I had already gotten sick (which I rarely do) because I was burning the candle at both ends.

So, what’s the point? The point is that I am writing this post today. It is June 19th and I haven’t written since early May. But that is ok! I am not a failure. This Project is not a failure. Life simply required me to take a short break. But instead of letting Phosphorus sit dormant for the next year, I am diving back in!

So, quit being so hard on yourself… Seriously! You are not a failure. And life gets a little hectic at times. So, tell those negative voices to shut up, quit giving them power, and get back to living your dream and your purpose! Here is a great verse to remember:

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. -Philippians 1:6

So, today, whatever area of your life that your voices have kept you from, I encourage you to take action in that area today. Stop being so hard on yourself. You are not a failure. God is working on your life and will not stop until you are completed!

What about you? What areas of life are those voices keeping you from? Leave a comment about your struggles so we can lift each other up in these areas!


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I'm a husband, father, pastor, leader, and dreamer. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, but it's through these mistakes that I've experienced the incredible grace of God. Now, I'm on a mission to share the Light and Love of Jesus with a dark and hurting world.

I founded Phosphorus Project to explore what it truly means to follow Jesus and live with a "Love first" outlook. I am inviting you to join me on this journey to become a Light Bearer and to discover the Faith, Hope, and Love of God.